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Cause Breaking Up Is Hard To Do
We have ALL been there! I don’t care if you are the breaker or the breakee, it’s never easy. And I don’t care if you have been with the person for 2 days, 2 weeks, 2 years, or 20 years, if you really care about the person; it hurts. It’s a painful feeling, a feeling of rejection. You always wonder; are you not good enough? Not pretty enough? Not smart enough? What could it be? It’s even worse when you know that you were the one in the wrong, yet there is nothing that you can do to fix it, no matter how bad you want too.
You can’t force someone to want to be with you (trust me I have tried!). In the end it just never works out for the best and it’s even more painful in the end. If they want to come back to you, they will. That doesn’t mean you should always take them back, either way you can’t force someone to care.
So what do you do about it?
~ You can listen to every Coldplay songs ever made; but it’s not going to help you feel better…
~ You can lay in bed by yourself, watching the Notebook. Believe me that is ALWAYS my first instinct. It’s not healthy though and it’s not going to help you get over him any faster…
And this is why:
It never gets easier… I wish it did, but it doesn’t. To be honest I’m crying while typing this. No one is ever okay being rejected by someone, but it happens and it happens to everyone! So the best thing to do is cope the best way you know how… And NO, that does not mean go to the bar and drown yourself in beer.
This is what you do, do
Get out of bed! Do anything to get your mind off it, my favorite things to do are:
~ Getting my eyebrows done. I don’t know why but that’s the 1st things I do when I’m sad, it just makes me feel better about myself.
~ Next go shopping. Buying new clothes! Great feeling! Trust me! Just don’t break the bank to do it because that’s just a whole new issue.
~ Go to the gym, work off some of that stress, you’ll feel better when you leave!
~ Hang out with your friends. Like my mom has always told me; laughter is the best medicine and it’s true. Your friends will always help you through it and they will always make you feel better… at least until your next boy saga begins, then you have to start it all over again!
But really, life is full of lessons. Never be afraid to admit when you are wrong and always learn from your mistakes, it’s the only thing we can really do in life. Because the truth is what’s meant to be will be, and true love will always find its way. And while it may feel like you’re literally having a heart attack and like you may be dying, you’re not and you will be okay… Trust me I know! Everything happens for a reason and karma is a you know what…
Be My Valentine?
Haaa.. Valentine’s Day! Everyone knows that it’s nothing but a Hallmark holiday, there’s no real purpose to it. The only people that make out well are the card companies, flower shops, restaurants, and jewelry stores. Other than that it’s just a sham holiday. What really happens? If our lucky your boyfriend buys you flowers, takes you out to dinner, maybe even buys you jewelry. But if you’re one of the unfortunate many, it’s just like any other day. For boys it’s no big deal, but for girls it sucks…a lot! When your girl friends are going out and having dinner with their boyfriends and you have nothing to do, it’s a harsh reminder that you don’t have a boyfriend, or a guy you’re dating. On any other day you might not care that much, but on Valentine’s Day it seems really lonely. So here’s my advice…
You have 3 Choices:
1) You can sit around your apartment feeling sorry for yourself, watching TV, and maybe crying.
2) You can have a quite night to yourself since your roommates out to dinner and a movie. So don’t mope… take a bath, give yourself a manicure and pedicure. Put in a good movie (not the notebook!) and relax
3) You can round up all your single girl friends, get all dressed up, and go out to dinner together. Then head downtown for the night and have fun. Just make sure that you don’t get drunk and then feel sorry for yourself because you have no boyfriend. That’s bad news and no one wants to deal with that!!
My game plan is number 3 because it’s better to go out and have fun with friends, than it is to sit around wondering why you don’t have a boy to hang out with on Valentine’s Day. There’s nothing wrong with you! Its definitely them… trust me
Rules to College Dating
College dating is so over rated. I don’t wanna sound like my mom, but I’m definitely going to. College is suppose to be about getting a degree, going out and getting a good job making a whole lot of money. Instead everyone gets so hung up on whose dating who, who broke up with whom, and she stole my boyfriend, they get distracted and focus on boys instead of what they should really be focusing on... which is getting through college with good grades
- My number one rule is to just simply not date in college, maybe casual dating is okay, but definitely do not have a committed boyfriend or girlfriend. All it does is cause trouble. It’s always good at first but in the end all it does is lead to heartache.
- If you’re going to date don’t put a guy ahead of school and work. Dropping school work and studying is such a bad idea. If you’re missing classes to hang out with your boy instead that’s bad news. Nothing should go before school. That’s the reason why you’re in college. What happens if you’re not together after college and you have a crappy job because you did badly in college and you have all these college loans because you had to retake classes since you didn’t show up and you failed! If you’re going to have a boyfriend, make him wait while you’re in class or studying, because in the end it’s just not worth it.
- Don’t put your boyfriend before your friends. There is nothing worse than having a best friend that is always with her boyfriend. It’s not the same hanging out with your friend and her boyfriend as it is just hanging out with your friend. Plus if the relationship ever goes south who are you going to turn too. If you ditch your friends for your boyfriend all the time, chances are they aren’t going to be that interested in helping you get back with him once you’re broken up.
- Don’t spend too much time with your boyfriend in general. If you are always with your boyfriend you’re going to get sick of each other and things are going to turn sour real fast. Especially don’t be too clingy, because the worst thing in the world is having a clingy girlfriend or boyfriend. Don’t call them like every hour, let him call you. I’m pretty sure that it’s a scientific fact that guys ALWAYS want what they can’t have!
- Go out with friends. Don’t make plans with your boyfriend every weekend. Make plans with your girlfriends, it’s more important to spend weekend nights out with your girls. When college is all over, it’s going to be the fun times that you spent with your girlfriends that you are going to want to remember. Not the times that you left the bar fighting and crying because of your jerk boyfriend.
So basically, there is no real reason to have a committed relationship in college. College is supposed to be about meeting best friends and people that you can’t live without. Not crying over boys and hating every other girl that they talk too. All that it does it cause unnecessary drama and I’m sure everyone’s life can use a little less drama. College is shorter than it seems, so spend it wisely!
I’ll believe it when I see it!!
Every year people attempt to make New Year’s resolutions. When they make them they fully intend to actually do whatever it is that they are resolving to do, but the chances of them actually sticking to them are slim to none. Everyone is pretty much just in the moment when they make their resolution and at the time it feels really good to think that you’re actually going to do something good for yourself in the New Year. You are not going to do it!! So stop making the resolution because if you do it at all it’s going to be for about 4 weeks at the most! Then you’re going to forget all about it until the next year when you make the same resolution, in which once again you are not going to do. Then maybe once you realize that you’re never going to do it, you pick a new resolution to pretend you might do the next year. So here a list of the most cliqued New Year’s resolution that everyone makes, but rarely actually does.
1. Join a gym and lose weight- haaa yeah right! If you actually do it good for you, but your totally not going to! You may actually join a gym, maybe. Even if you do that though, everyday your doing to say maybe I should get ready to go to the gym. Then you’ll most likely grab a bag of potato chips, sit down and watch TV and never end up going! Maybe you will go work out for 2 weeks or so, but then that will be the end of that, then you’ll only go to the gym to use the hot tub and sauna!
2. Eating Healthy- A lot of people decide that in the New Year they’re going to turn in those cookies for some yogurt. You may even start to eat chicken and fish for dinner. But then one day you’ll be running late and you really need to eat. So you stop at McDonalds and grab a double cheese burger and fries, with a large coke and the whole diet thing goes right down the drain. But it’s not your fault, pizza and fast food just taste sooo good, who wants to eat dry chicken and vegetables?
3. Stop Smoking- smoking cigarettes is a gross habit! So it would be great if people decided to stop smoking and then do it, that’d be awesome! It’s more than likely though that you are going to say that you’re going to stop and then stop for 2 days before your back to smoking a pack a day. You’ll probably make this resolution for about 5 years before you decide to pick a different one! You should probably stick to this resolution, because you’re pretty much killing yourself and everyone around you every time you light up one of those cancer sticks!
4. Stop drinking so much- yeahhh hahaha okay. If you not in college and you drink a lot, then this one definitely is for you. If you are in college, give me a break, it’s not gonna work out for you. First you’re going to get back from break and everyone is going to be going out so of course you’re going to go, because what else are you going to do, stay in alone? Then you might try to not go out and focus on your studies, until your friend wants to go out for a few drinks because her boyfriend just broke up with her, so you obviously have to go. And before you know it your back to going out 4 nights a week and you’re drinking more than ever!
5. Find a new boyfriend- Maybe in 2008 I’ll meet a really nice guy that’s different from all the other losers I’ve ever dated… right?!? Hahaha keep dreamin’ cuz it’s not gonna happen! If it does happen let me know where you met him because I will totally go there right away. The problem with high expectation of meeting Mr. Wonderful in the New Year is that you’re looking and waiting for it. If you’re hoping it happens you’re going to fall for the next jerk that comes along just because you want it so badly. So stop it! Make a new resolution because that one is just nooo good!
6. Doing better in school- I am definitely guilty of using this one a bunch of time. When you make the resolution you’re so ready to go back to school after break and completely be on top of things, you’re definitely going to bring that 3.0 up to a 4.0… definitely! You act like your gonna study all the time and make sure your in class every day. But then you friends make plans, so you have to go. Or it’s too cold to walk to class or to the library, I mean it is January! Then you have to go to work and shopping and anything else that doesn’t include an accounting book. So that 3.0 never rises, but as long as it doesn’t fall its cool… oh well maybe next year!
7. Anything financial- This is my personal resolution. Whether it be to get out of debt or to save more money, finances are always a good one. Since finances are usually a major stressor to most people, it seems reasonable to want t try to save some money, or pay off all those maxed out credit cards. I always spend alllll my money on clothes and especially shoes. If I would have saved up all my money that I wasted I probably could have bought myself a sweet BMW by now. So I, like many others are going to attempt to open up a savings account and pay off the credit cards
8. Organize your life! – Having a life in shambles is not good! People always claim that they’re going to get their act together, clean up all those messy papers and that filing cabinet. Cleaning up there room, and keeping it clean! This usually works until you realize how big of a chore getting your life together is! So then you will probably root through a few papers and maybe throw some old clothes in your closet out, but then you just give up and move onto something else.
9. Find a new job- If you absolutely despise your job, then this is the resolution for you. If you really hate it that badly then maybe you should really do it! Because there is nothing worse than going to a job that you dread going to everyday. So you say you’re going to start searching and then you procrastinate a whole lot, until you finally decide that your stuck with what you have and you never even turn in those applications. Well this year turn them in!
10. Take a trip- Yea maybe this year I’ll make sure I go to the Caribbean for a week or two. Haa yea right, wishful thinking. People make this resolution and would love to actually do it. Usually what stops them is money and time. So taking a trip would be nice just not do-able. So maybe just take a drive out to the country, or if you live in the country take a trip to the city… that’s a trip right?
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